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Girls: How much value do you put on a lads appearance?

I spend a lot of time at the gym (about 20 hours a week) and I have strong, defined arms, a 6-pack, strong, muscular legs and I am very fit but my personality is somewhere in the regions total wanker. So does my appearance make up for my personality or not? I am also really smart and quite funny (at times)

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You might attract a girl with your looks, but you wont hold onto her unless you sort out the personality!
Do you really want a girl who would go out with a 'total wanker' just because he has 'strong defined arms, a six pack and muscular legs?'

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• It depends, I'm not looking for a relationship so looks rank pretty highly for me at the moment in terms of dating. In fact, I would rather date a total wanker because then I won't have the complication of fallling for him haha, self destructive I realise. I think your personality will change depending on the girl. You're not going to act like a total wanker around someone you really like and think highly of. You'll be caring and smart and funny and nice to her. So, in conclusion, I think the importance of looks depends on what you want from a relationship. If I thought a guy was great but he wasn't majorly hot that wouldn't bother me, I'd go out with him anyway.
  
  To be honest if you're fit (and vain, by the sounds of it ;-) ) and have a bad personality you'll probably get plenty of dates with shallow, insecure women but will struggle to form a serious relationship with someone who ranks personality highly, which most women do.
• Hi hun, I don't usually go for guys who have muscles or strong arms. I go for whatever. Different guy, different personalities. Iv been out with a doorman who was so loving and caring. I never felt comfortable lying on his chest watching a film, but always felt comfortable around him. I left cos I didn't like his job. A muscly builder who was a cocky little ****, a total wanker, treating me like crap, always doing the dirty. So I left cos of that. Now i'm with a guy who is great looking, but the body isn't muscly mainly his legs but to be honest with you this is the guy i'v been with for 5 years and the one I feel most comfortable lying next to in bed. I do not look at men with muscles anymore cos most of them are complete knobs you need to change your personality a tad hun, just treat women with respect if your dating someone don't be staring at other girls or talking to them like ****, put your arm round her make her feel loved. Like she's your world. Be a dick when the room is full of lads. But cool it when a girl enters. Thats how my fella got me. Not all looks but mainly his personality. Instead of laughing when Something happened to me he stayed by my side all the way to the hospital leaving his friends and he didn't even know me and his friend caused the injury. How sweet. X
• It depends who you talk to of course, but Ive noticed for myself that if a guy has a great personality it will make him alot more attractive. Unfortunately for me it doesn't work the other way around, if a guy is really attractive but dull then I move on, he might catch my attention for a little but not for long.
  
  Working out is great, but you should try to spend some time working on your personality if its a concern. You will find it much more rewarding.
• i know that girls like to say that looks dont matter, and they shouldnt . but to be honest for me, i dont think id date a guy that i wasnt attracted to physically. meaning by like how they look. but sometimes for me, a guys personality makes them cute. id love to date a really attractive guy, but if he couldnt make me laugh or make me smile or anything it wouldnt work out.
• You sound a bit obsessed with looking "good"
  Looks are useless, if your personality sucks, so will your relationships.
  Girls love funny guys who try to impress them, but too much has the opposite effect.
  
  [[p.s. in Brittan the term "wanker" means a masturbator =D]]
• no, i cant stand vain men. what happened to REAL men ?? the ones with sweat, and dirt and grime on their face after a hard days work. lol. its good to work out and and stay healthy but being obsessive about it is stupid. i wouldnt want a man who cares more about his muscles than he would care about me.
  it doesnt matter how good looking a guy might be, if he's, in ur words, a total wanker then he's not gonna go far in the way of a good stable long term relationship. but if ur after one night stands then ur probably good to go already.
• i look for guy's who are smart , interesting and have a good sense of humor but i still value appearances for about 40% x
  
  you sound very fit but if you are a complete wanker and fck people around then i probably wouldn't be interested x
• sorry to disappoint (are you Irish? you talk like it), but looks don't make up for anything. it's a plus, but, at least to me, I'll only date people who I like with my eyes closed. good luck with yourself!
• well kind of i like a fit guy but i also like i nice personality so fitness n appearance counts for like 37% n personality 37% n intelligence 26%
• looks are important at first glance
  ya know deciding weather or not to approach
  however!
  when you actually start talking to the person and realizing theres nothing there
  then appearance dosent matter anymore
• I look for three things in a guy
  
  good hair
  good sense of humour
  good body